Week 11: The Mask of Codependency

Psalm 139

For the director of music. Of David. A psalm.

1 You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.

2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar.

3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
    you are familiar with all my ways.

4 Before a word is on my tongue
    you, Lord, know it completely.

5 You hem me in behind and before,
    and you lay your hand upon me.

6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too lofty for me to attain.

7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
    Where can I flee from your presence?

8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
    if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.

9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
    if I settle on the far side of the sea,

10 even there your hand will guide me,
    your right hand will hold me fast.

11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
    and the light become night around me,”

12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
    the night will shine like the day,
    for darkness is as light to you.

Try Softer  Aundi Kobler

Strong Like Water Aundi Kobler

Gabor Mate' Ted Talk "The 7 Impacts of Trauma" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5jmsJAClpw

• Self-Sufficient Mask: People may need me, but I don’t need anyone

• Fortress Mask: This will protect me from getting too close to people who will hurt me

• Take Charge Mask: I have to be in control so I won’t get hurt

• Superior Mask: If I look better than others, then I will be accepted

• Victim Mask: Everyone is trying to hurt me

• Party Mask: I have to be the life of the party to be accepted.

• Please Mask: I can’t say “no” because I will only be liked if I am needed

• Vanity Mask: My value comes from my outward appearance 

• Rescuer Mask: I am responsible for others’ problems, feelings, or behaviors

• Performance Mask: My value is based on my appearance and how well I measure up

• Happy Mask: People only like me if I am happy and fun to be around

• “I can do it” Mask: Asking for help is a sign of weakness

• Perfectionist Mask: I won’t be liked if I make mistakes

• Rebel Mask: I’m part of the crowd when I go against my values

• Flirtatious Mask” I must be pursued to have value

From Betrayal and Beyond Workbook